PFA Tips: Calling 911 in a Crisis
By Officer Laurie Reyes, Special Operations Division, Autism/IDD, Alzheimer’s/Dementia Outreach Unit for Montgomery County Police, Shelly McLaughlin, Program Director, Pathfinders for Autism and Jeremy Sparks, Emergency Communications Supervisor, Howard County Police
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Under extreme stress and anxiety, our ability to cognitively process is diminished. It can be difficult to recall the most basic of information – your child’s height/weight, what they are wearing that day, their triggers and coping mechanisms. It’s important to practice what to say when it’s time to place that 911 call for help and have helpful documentation filled out and easily accessible prior to a crisis.
Call 911 IMMEDIATELY
If your loved one is demonstrating behaviors that could be dangerous for themselves or others, do not wait to call 911.
Remain calm
Easier said than done. This is where practicing during a non-crisis time what you might say on a call will be helpful. 911 call takers need to be able to understand your call in order to dispatch the appropriate personnel. Officers will be more able to listen to and assist you if you are calm and in control.
Be an advocate
Provide the call taker and responding officers the diagnosis of your loved one. Be prepared to describe your loved one’s triggers, coping strategies, passions, and preferred method of communication.
Be clear about your needs
Focus on the critical information you need to provide the 911 call taker and the arriving officers. Explain what type of assistance you need in order to help your loved one. Do you only need time? Space? Support?
Identify threats
If there is a threat (the individual has a weapon, or is threatening to hurt himself or others), please let officers know. The more information officers have when responding, the better they will be equipped to provide an effective/safe outcome.
Assign roles to family members
Make sure all family household members from siblings to grandparents have a “mental mindset” of their roles in a crisis. All members of the household should feel comfortable calling 911 and should know what to say and ask for.
Calling 911 about a Critical Missing Person
Call 911 IMMEDIATELY
If your child or loved one is missing, the longer you wait to call 911, the greater the headstart your child has.
Prepare BEFORE your loved one goes missing
It is best to fill out a First Responder Form and keep multiple copies on hand as more than one responder may request a copy. Elopement behavior can begin at any age. Just because your child has never eloped before, does not mean your child will not at some point. For more information on preventive strategies for wandering and elopement, please read “PFA Tips: When They Wander or Run Away”.
Be as accurate as possible
Be truthful to the police regarding how long your child has been missing as this changes the search radius.
Offer clues if your child has eloped in the past
- Does your child have a favorite or typical place where they go? (Or has expressed a desire to go?)
- What are your child’s triggers, fears and passions? Include specific resources used by search teams – K9s, helicopter, police, police cars, etc.
- Will your child respond to their name?
- Do they have any form of identification on them?
- Do they have sensory issues? What about tolerance for lights, sounds, touch?
NextGen911
What is NextGen911?
NextGen911is a major upgrade to 911, allowing voice, text, data, images, and video. It also has improved location accuracy, especially for mobile callers. Because it is new, some services may be available before others and different services may be available in different parts of the country at different times.
Text to 911
Call if you can, text if you can’t. Use Text to 911 if you are in a situation where it is unsafe to place a voice call to 911 or you are experiencing a medical emergency and may be unable to speak. Note the following limitations: texting may take longer, pictures/videos and emojis cannot be sent over text and if you include another contact on your text to 911 it may not be received by 911.
Sending pictures and video to 911
This feature is not available in all locations yet. It is not a video chat with the 911 call-taker (no Facetime/zoom/etc.). The dispatcher will need to send you a link to upload a photo/video or take a picture/video.
Better location accuracy
NextGen911 uses multiple data sets to tell 911 where you are. It can even detect what floor of a building you are on. Make sure you have you Location Services turned on.
Why does a NextGen911 call feel so long?
NextGen 911 incorporates a protocol questioning system. It is designed to gather needed information and ensure you get the RIGHT help. It can feel like a lot of questions. STAY CALM. Your call is typically being dispatched by someone else while you are answering questions. The amount of time on the phone always feels longer than what it is.
What is What3Words?
A geolocation system that divides the entire surface of the Earth into a grid of 10’x10’ squares. Each square is assigned a unique combination of three words example: apple.orange.chair. This makes it easy for someone to describe their exact location anywhere in the world — even if there’s no street address.
Why it helps
It is a free app that is being used by 911. It is especially critical for emergencies that happen in places without addresses: hiking trails, highways, parks, large buildings, rural areas. It can work anywhere in the world and still works offline. What3Words is precise, giving an accurate location within 10 feet.
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